Pitiable

Ok, so a few days ago I was, you know, doing as I usually do, browsing the daily new on BBC and MSNBC when I came across this article that just made me feel a combination of sickness and sadness.

Have a read here and don’t forget to tell me what you think! Also, please share with your friends, I’d love to know what they think as well!

After reading it, I came away with such a sense that being fat really is a pitiable state. People see you from a distance and they pity you. You may be feeling fine and walking with your head high, your inner light shining bright, you’re in control of your body BUT people don’t see that, they see a fat,  blubbery person, ambling towards the nearest resting point, mouth agape gasping for breath, skin plastered in the shiny gloss of sweat due to your obvious over exertion.

Over the years of being fat I’ve really become hypersensitive really about my body. i always am aware of my body and how much space it’s taking up at any given time.  I know how to walk just tightly and controlled enough to minimize rippling, i know how to judge a stable chair from and unstable one, I know how much i should scoot in the corner should someone need to pass. These are things that occupy my mind almost every minute of any social interaction!! how sad is that? and NOW to realize that despite all of that, i’m still perceived as pitiable.

Man, i know being fat is unhealthy and  very undesirable at least in the Western world, but still, this is too much of a burden for overweight people to bear!! are we not supposed to feel in any way good about ourselves? can we now elicit any other feeling than pity and sympathy from strangers? can we not inspire people? can’t we just BE?

I’ll leave you with this quote from Maura,

“So anyway, yes, I think I’d be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other … because I’d be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything. To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room — just like I’d find it distressing if I saw a very drunk person stumbling across a bar or a heroine addict slumping in a chair.”

here’s the link again in case you missed it: http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/dating-blog/overweight-couples-on-television

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